Weddings are happy occasions – the coming together of not just two people, but also two families. It means memorable speeches, food, drinks, and dancing. Unfortunately, weddings also mean expenses, conflict, and stress. Still, with careful planning, communication, and a lot of help, any couple can navigate the potential stressors and focus on the joy and celebration of the day.
So, as a parent of one of the happy couples, here are 3 ways you can help out.
Offer Financial Support
Food and drinks, the venue, invitations, professional wedding videographers, the wedding dress – these are just a handful of what’s on the average wedding to-pay-for list.
So, one of the best ways to show your love and support during this important milestone in their life is by offering to cover some, if not all expenses. Of course, you want to keep in mind that discussing any financial matter is often sensitive. Have the conversation at an appropriate time, in a private and comfortable setting where you can both speak openly and honestly. Then, rather than just informing your child what you’re willing to contribute, approach the conversation collaboratively by asking about their budget and financial goals for the wedding, and offering to work together to find a solution that meets everyone’s needs.
Throughout the process, always remember that it’s ultimately your child’s wedding and let them have the final say on budget allocation instead of trying to control the process because it’s your money.
Offer Emotional Support
The average wedding is proven to be very tasking not just physically, but emotionally. Thus, like financial support, offering your emotional support can make a big difference in helping your child create a wedding day that is meaningful and special to them.
There are many different ways to provide emotional support. You can simply listen to your child, giving them your full attention, and allowing them to express their thoughts and feelings without judgment. Or, you can validate their feelings, letting them know that it’s okay to feel stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, and that you are there to support them through it all.
You can even celebrate milestones along the way – whether it’s finding the perfect dress or securing the ideal venue – helping your child see the progress they are making.
Try to Resolve Conflict
Conflicts are inevitable when it comes to planning a wedding, as there are many different opinions, emotions, and expectations involved. It’s far from ideal and so another way to help out your child is by helping to minimize and manage conflict in a healthy way.
Again, there are different ways to do this. For example, encouraging clear and open communication from everyone is key to avoiding conflicts. You also want to help set boundaries and establish expectations upfront as another way to minimize conflicts later on. Then, compromise is also essential, and looking for creative solutions that allow everyone to feel heard and respected can be a great help.
When things are done right, weddings are a meaningful, joyous occasion. So help your child to do things right by offering financial or emotional support, and helping to resolve conflict.