Someone asked an interesting question that people going through a divorce process or considering one may find helpful. And the question is this “Is divorce a bad thing?” Think about it really hard.
When you really think about it you will find that it is not really bad thing. Yes, it is a really sad and HARD thing. You can however not describe it as bad though the difficulties and emotional turmoil that is usually associated with the process will make a lot of people consider it bad.
This article here tries to look at a few reasons why the process can be really hard. We will find that it is not the decision to get a divorce that is the real problem but how a person goes about it. This is also the same thing that will affect how long the process will take.
In this article, we will look at a general divorce process and a few important things you need to know that will help you reduce the time it takes to get through the entire divorce process. You must however note that there is no fast track for divorce especially in a place like the UK. There is a minimum length of time the process will take so be careful and wary of anyone you promises you a fast tracked process.
A Standard Divorce Process
This is a standard sequence for a divorce process in the UK. You need to bear in mind that you cannot file for divorce unless you’ve been married for at least a year. This is the minimum required length of time before a filing can take place.
This is the first step. Once your petition is filed with the court, your partner will be sent a copy to also fill and submit to the court. This process will usually take about 6 weeks. You can however add an additional 3 weeks if you cannot get your partner to submit theirs. The court will allow a 21 day period to continue without your partner’s filled petition.
Decree Nisi Application
This is a decree that will be issued by the judge only when s/he is satisfied that the union has indeed ended. Once this decree is issued, the two of you will receive your certificates. This process can take up to eight weeks.
Decree Absolute Application
At the expiry of 6 weeks and a day, you can then file an application for decree absolute. After you have made this filing, you should receive your decree absolute certificate after about two weeks. With this certificate, the divorce process is complete and you are no longer married.
So how long does divorce take? Our calculation above shows at least 22 weeks if everything goes smoothly. Remember that there is no mention of consent agreement regarding finances and the children if any. These can make the process considerably longer. Let’s now look at a few tips to ensure things go smoothly.
Tips for Speeding things Up
These tips are important to get you through the process as smoothly as possible.
Guard Your Emotions
This is obviously the most difficult thing to ask of a person going through something as emotionally traumatizing as a divorce. But hey, if you do not keep your emotions in check, you are in for a really rough ride.
The key here goes back to the first question we asked. Is it a bad thing? No it’s not, it’s just a sad thing. You should also get past the blame game so you both can concentrate on moving forward.
Cut Down on Antagonizing Your Partner
If you’ve decided to get a divorce, stop getting into fights with your partner if you can help it. The issue here is that you need your partner to get things to go very smoothly. Remember that if your partner does not submit their petition to the court, it will add another 3 weeks to the process.
We’ve not even talked about the consent agreement which is one thing that takes the longest time. If you and your partner constantly have daggers drawn, you will take forever here and may eventually have to rely on a court ruling. Once again, keep your emotions under check.
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Choose Your Attorney Carefully
Finally, choose your legal representation carefully. Who you choose can either make the process easier or more difficult. Some lawyers love the fight and want you to take the fight to your partner. It’s not about what the lawyer wants but about what you want. Therefore, be sure you choose someone who is ready to make things as easy as possible for you.
Remember that divorce is a really sad thing but not a bad thing. If you can rid your mind of guilt and emotional turmoil, you will be in a better position to have a less stressful process that will also leave you, your children and your ex without unnecessary emotional scars.