Getting married is not what a lot of people think. Despite the way the movies may portray getting hitched, the truth is that there are a lot of things about marriage that people don’t realize until they’re already several years in.
Some people want to believe in nothing but romance and happy endings. However, in some cases, once happy couples find themselves wondering why they didn’t get a prenup in the first place.
That’s not to say that all marriages don’t have happily ever after endings, there just might be a few things that you may not realize yet. Here are some of the most common things that nobody tells you about marriage.
Your Intimacy Will Change
When you first start dating, things are exciting and hot and heavy. Passionate nights happen often, and you might think that that flame will burn forever.
However, most married couples will agree that as the years go on, the amount of intimacy changes. Between having busy work schedules and, in some cases, because of having kids, you may not have as many opportunities to cuddle up and be romantic.
Not to fret however. This is perfectly normal and common. As long as you make an effort to work through dry spells, you can still have a perfectly happy and healthy intimate life.
Difficult Moments Make You Closer
A lot of new couples might imagine that difficult moments might make them drift apart from each other. Yet, most couples agree that the tough moments actually ended up bringing them closer to each other.
When you survive difficulties that test the strength of your love, then you will end up loving each other even more than you ever did before. By finding strength in each other, your relationship will pull you through the most difficult of moments.
It Takes Work
Perhaps you’ve heard married couples say that making a marriage work requires a lot of effort. You may have brushed it off as just another saying that doesn’t hold much truth. However, marriage really does require a lot of work to make it last.
When you make a commitment to spend your life with someone, you’re going to get to know the deepest size of their personality. No one is perfect, and everyone has ugly sides. You’ll have to weather through those difficult moments together and love them for better or for worse.
You May Have Regrets
Even the happiest of couples admit that they’ve had moments of wanting to pull the plug. Many couples themselves driven nuts by their partners despite having an overall happy relationship.
The ultimate test will be whether the feelings of wanting to end your marriage last or not. If the only time you feel like ending it is when you’re angry, and once things smooth over you feel fine about your marriage again, then it’s nothing to be alarmed about.